There’s a chill in the air, dead leaves crunch underfoot, the holidays are just around the corner—and the season of handcuffs has begun.
As we surrender ourselves to the great outdoors this winter, I’m here to tell you – hibernation can be hot.
What is cuffing season?
The season of shackles is the fall desire to enter into a more serious or defined relationship in anticipation of a long winter to come.
“Shackles” refers to the idea that the commitment between two people is similar to the pair chaining themselves together, which can be weird or terrifying depending on your interpretation.
The shackle season runs roughly from late fall to early spring, equinox to equinox if you’re pagan.
The attraction of the handcuff season lies in the perceived ability of the partnership to stave off loneliness, seasonal depression, and the woes and scars that come from getting through the holidays alone.
Whether you’re locking it in with a long-term romance or warming up with an extended fall fling, ’tis the season for experimentation—toys, positions, and even a shared fk list to accomplish before the first spring thaw .
While each of the following adventures in intimacy comes with a zodiac prescription, I invite you all—Aries and Pisces and all the signs in between—to explore, inspire, and revel in the dark days and wild nights ahead.
How to approach the conversation of exploring sex with your partner
Because we live in an oppressive patriarchal wasteland of a society that prefers feeling shame over pleasure, conversations about sex can be challenging for both parties.
Sarah Riccio, sex guru and owner of delicto.com, offers her insights on how to approach your partner about hot cold weather sex.
As with all things, consent and compassion are at the top of the list.
Riccio explains: “If you bring up the idea of a new sex position, your partner may feel nervous at the prospect of stepping outside their comfort zone. That doesn’t mean the answer is no necessarily, but it’s important to address feelings of apprehension or performance anxiety before jumping into new territory. Take plenty of time to address wants, needs, fears and, if possible, safe words. The more you let yourself be vulnerable with your lover, the greater your mutual intimacy will be.”
Read it, go ahead and stay warm, my friends.
Cold plunge
Ruled by the march of war, Mars, Aries people like their sex and their conflict hot and often, but it turns out that the cold plunge paves the way for intensified intimacy.
If you’re not ready to invest in a full immersion system, you can still freeze ice in your tub as a kind of cold foreplay.
Experts recommend that couples hold hands, synchronize their breathing and look into each other’s eyes when they’re out in the cold – before warming up and getting down to hard sex.
From behind
As a fixed earth sign, Taurus people are inclined toward intimacy that feels like wild abandon with minimal effort.
Riccio reveals, “Lovers who have never tried a ‘doggy style’ position may want to give it a go. There’s no right way to do it (which might put your mind at ease if you’re a beginner) as long as the giver is behind the receiver. The romantic part of this position is that the giver is able to explore his lover’s body from a new, exciting angle. They can rub their partner’s back while they take, reach around their body for stimulation, whisper sweet nothings in their ear, kiss the back of their neck – the options are endlessly intimate!
A back rub and an orgasm? Pure bull bait.
Sweeten the deal for this lookalike and get them a beautiful pillow that can easily transition from sexy to a statement piece.
Missionary up close
Air signs like Gemini have a tendency to live more in the mind than in the moment and can benefit from eye contact and forced closeness.
Riccio explains, “Also known as ‘modified missionary,’ this position puts a romantic spin on a classic fan favorite. You start in missionary as usual, but the receiver wraps his legs around his lover to pull them in more, while the giver cradles his partner’s head and pulls him into the erogenous zone between his ear and shoulder. This easy modification allows players to hear and feel each other’s breath and body movements in an incredibly intimate way.”
Incredible intimacy? Close enough to feel another person’s breath? Sounds like a real promise of changeable air progress.
Sex in sweatshirts
It’s cold AF out there, folks, and thus an ideal time to light it up without taking it all off.
With the “sweater bra” embracing the collective cultural imagination, and Cancer being the sign that rules breasts, there’s never been a better time, or better sign, to combine comfort and coitus and leave a little to the imagination .
Also known as the “c-king shirt” and “holding the Pooh,” rolling around with the top half covered and the bottom half bare is an ideal way to chase away winter.
Send a provocative package
A Leo’s favorite love language is sleazy adoration – with gifts giving him second place on the pleasure pyramid.
Bow down to their glory and surprise them with a special delivery of lingerie, lube, a small framed nude photo, a sex toy or an invitation to join you in a “strangers in a bar” role-playing game.
Role playing game
As a mutable earth sign ruled by ever-changing Mercury, Virgo people are far more adaptable and imaginative than they’re given credit for.
Detail oriented with a desire to please, they can really commit to a character and will absolutely love the opportunity to use their DIY skills and/or repurpose their own Halloween costumes at home for kinky sex.
For more scenarios, characters, and inspiration, see our guide to roleplaying through signs.
Sex in the mirror
As the sign of partnership, Libra acts as a kind of mirror to their mate, making reflective sex an excellent choice.
Riccio explains, “Making love in front of a mirror can make any position feel more romantic because couples can admire themselves mid-play. This can also be a great step for people who aren’t quite ready to try a new position but still want to explore a new sex experience.”
Blindfolded oral sex
This recommendation is brought to you by a Scorpio (journey or my death, kitchen wizard and certified bh Sarah Freeman) for Scorpios.
As a sign of the shadows, this fixed water sign will appreciate being thrown into the dark and fully focused on the pleasure/worship in the temple of oral sex.
Taking in the dark is akin to taking a ghost’s head — hot, hot, hot for the creepiest sign of the zodiac.
Author list af–k it
Symbolized by the arrows pointing to the celestial centaur, Sagittarius is the sign of the explorer.
Honor this archetype by making your home environment a map of coital conquest. Whether it’s the bathroom sink, the exercise ball, the coffee table, the stairs, the roommate’s bed, above the washing machine or the inverted sofa, explore ways and positions that make your home furnishings fully functional.
Candle wax massage
Ruled by the harsh planet Saturn, Capricorn people tend to like their pleasure with a side chair of pain. Set the mood with candles, strip and drip at a distance to manage the ouch level.
Consider investing in a candle like this one from WOO or this one from Love Salve that melts easily into massage oil and features a pour spout — perfect for sea goats who want a multi-purpose purchase and always need a little release.
Bonus: Every time you light the candle, you’ll send an olfactory message to this work-loving earth sign that it’s time to turn off and on.
Watch porn together
As a fixed air sign, Aquarius is often cast in the role of the outsider or observer—and watching porn with a partner is a great way to honor that advantage while also opening up a dialogue about desire, on, off, fantasies, fetishes. and role-playing inspiration.
Remember never to taste other people’s tastes.
Because Aquarius rules the 10th house of community and holds strongly to utopian ideals of equality, dignity, and orgasms for all, consider choosing your crush from this list of ethical porn sites.
CBD sex
Fun fact: With their cute inner selves and dreamy tendencies, Pisces people are, in fact, weed eaters.
In nature, CBD candies can be an optimal way to help fish people get in the mood and out of their heads.
Taking a mild mind-altering substance together creates a bond between partners, and taking a low dose of CBD has been proven to help users feel present, more lubricated and less anxious – a real help in the bedroom or anywhere else you can take it. in.
Astrologer Reda Wigle researches and reports candidly on planetary configurations and their effect on each zodiac sign. Her horoscopes integrate history, poetry, pop culture and personal experience. To book a reading, visit her website.
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